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If You Lead, I’ll Follow


I’m being prepared, processed, sharpened, broken and recreated. I’m changing, every moment.  I’m also being Silhouette Holding Handsreconditioned and prepared for marriage.  I don’t know when it’ll happen, (again) but I do know that it will happen.  

We are, (I know I am) overwhelmed with images, stories, and reports on what keeps single women single and the ways that we can modify our behaviors and looks to be more pleasing to men.  *going country*  AIN’T NOBODY HAD TOLE ME NUTTIN!!! I had no idea that it was ALL our fault that we are still single.  If we suck this in, and stand this way, dab a bit of make up here, and polish that a certain color then we’ll attract the perfect man and live happily ever after in our house on the hill with the white picket fence, 2.5 kids and a minivan parked in the front yard.  Come on now!?!  It’s more to it than that.  We’ve got to do better. A lifetime can’t be based on the superficial.  We’ve got to get to the root of the issue.  

Every Christian woman tries to emulate the example of the Proverbs 31 woman.  This is the ideal. If we strive for both that image of feminine perfection while constantly seeking God and His glory, then we receive His favor.  I’ve heard so many Christians, both men and women use this compilation of scripture to figuratively beat women over the head and try to make them feel mediocre.  I agree with everything in the word of God. I mean, it’s truth.  You can’t argue with truth.  But these same Christians sometimes seem to forget that man has his own set of guidelines.   

Man, was created first.  Painstakingly molded, in the absolute likeness of God.  He was given dominion over EVERYTHING on the earth.  This means that Man was created to be powerful.  There is power in his word, his presence, and his humility.  He is a covering.  In order to be an adequate covering, he must first be humble enough to receive HIS covering by accepting God’s will as his own.  1 Corinthians 11:2-3 is the reminder that man’s responsibility and maturity in realizing and relying on his faith in submission to both God’s will and presence is the most important ingredient in being lord of his household. Our warriors are called to be both strong and tender, as in 1 Timothy 6:11.  He is also admired among his peers. He’s wise, knowledgeable, and he stands so strong on the foundation of God that he can NOT be moved, Psalm 1:1-6.

I don’t think it’s all the fault of women, and I also don’t believe that all men are bad, but what I do know is, we are slackers.  None of us are putting in the effort required to be the women AND men that we are created to be.  We have GOT to do better.  Our lives depend on a simple free will action.  Either you’re in or you’re out.  Not halfway, not left ankle in and whole body out, this ain’t the hokey pokey.  Men, grow up and accept your role as God’s chosen ones.  Honoring Him, provides honor for yourselves.  Women, stop being bitter because somebody did you wrong, and practice a little humility and femininity.  Submission to “what God has joined together,” first requires submission to the original Groom.    


His Grace is Sufficient


Sometimes we forget what God’s done and how good He is.  When life hands you lemons, you don’t always turn that sourpuss frown upside down and make lemonade.  We get angry, and say why me. We sulk and wallow in the dark abyss of depression, and when we get bored of that, then God becomes important to us again.  We start back studying, refocus our attention on what’s important then forget all about yesterday when things didn’t go our way.  Life becomes perfect again.  

It’s easy to focus on God when life is good, when there aren’t any trials.  But what about the times when it seems that everything you touch turns to dirt, when nothing ever goes right, when you lose what you loved the most? Can you trust the very one that promised to protect you even when it feels like He’s turned His face from you?

This makes me think about Paul and his plight.  Paul, once he was saved, suffered pure Hell.  2 Corinthians 12:7 And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I should be exalted above measure.  He dealt with so much suffering all in the name of God.  Right there, scripture tells us that one of Satan’s sneaky little imps made it his life’s goal to attack Paul on every side, in every thing.  The poor man couldn’t get ahead.  He begged God to relieve him of his thorn on three different occasions.  I know  he wasn’t a perfect man, he made a whole lot of mistakes, but come on now? No one should have to go through that much, right?  Right?  God answered Paul’s request in saying, “My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” 


His strength is made perfect in MY weakness.  His strength is made perfect in YOUR weakness.  His strength is made perfect in OUR weakness.  <<< we gotta make this thang personal 

God’s strength is at it’s peak when we are at our weakest point.  When life’s burdens are weighing your shoulders down and began pushing you to your knees, God shows up and shows out.  Think about it, as long as your hands are in the way trying to fix the problem, there’s no room for His.  He’ll step back and watch the loves of His life struggle until we get so tired and frustrated that we look up, tear stained cheeks, and say, “God, I need your help.”  And guess what?  He’ll listen. You are THAT important to Him.  


Forgive for Forgiveness



I’ve heard all my life that everything that looked good to you wasn’t always good for you. I’m a hard head, so I always chose what looked good. From the easy path, to the handsome man, even the “surface” friends. If it looked good, I was THERE! Then the consequences came. With consequences come regret. All of this is a never ending cycle of “why me’s” and “I’ll do better’s.” Once again, life turns around and sucker punches me square in the jaw. That does NOT feel good.

I’ve cried, repented, prayed, asked God for forgiveness, talked to the trusted friend, and done it all again and I keep getting hit in the face with the past. Sometimes memories of yesterday become so real that they begin to drown out my gift, my present. It gets hard to enjoy now because of then. We have all, at some point in our lives, sinned and come short of God’s glory. But when do I get a break? I know I’m not THAT bad! Why is this movie of my past constantly replaying in my mind. I thought God forgave me?

Now, regardless of the life I lived in my PAST, I have always known with 100% certainty, that the Bible is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Every single word of it is totally guaranteed, and even as old as it is, God’s word is TIMELESS. This means that the word of God, and all the promises it holds, continue to remain valid and relevant, even today, even for me. FOR ME!!! Even, for a wretch like me.

FYI BREAK — All of this is coming to my mind as I’m speaking to you. The Holy Spirit within me. This is my revelation, my testimonies in black and white. I’m not the only person feeling this way. My hope is that you gain some clarity in your own struggles from my mistakes.

When God forgives, it’s over. The slate is clean. Now, we still have to deal with the consequences of our actions, and OUR memories will still linger, but a humble heart seeking forgiveness receives just that. The issues come in when we decide to hold on to the past, when we don’t forgive ourselves.

These scriptures are examples of His Mercy — Micah 7:18-19 & Nehemiah 9:31

This scripture, Luke 6:37, stuck out to me. The end of it says … forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.

Okay, so, am I the only person that just had a “I could have had a V8” moment?

It seems so super duper simple. If I forgive myself, if I forgive others, I shall be forgiven. It seems so simple yet so hard. I realize that we tend to focus on what’s important. We build a life around our main focus. If my life is shaped around a problem, then it gains priority. Is there any room left for God?

Well, once more and again, God is putting things in perspective for me. I’m not perfect, but I’m willing to obey.

I’m In Love


Reposted from my old blog BoredNappy

I’ve been having an affair for too many years to count. No matter how much fun we had, I would always feel empty afterwards. It always felt like there should be something else. I never really felt complete. I catered to him, but it was never enough. He always wanted more. I gave my time, my energy, and opened my heart over and over again for it to just be snatched out and stepped on.

But, there was always someone waiting for me. He was always patient, always kind. He encouraged me and picked me up when I’d fall. He was always there with an encouraging word or a listening ear. When I was upset, he would just hold me and remind me that he’s here. He wanted to be my everything. I never understood why? I ignored him until I needed him. I rarely visited. He just wanted a chance and I wouldn’t give it to him. Just when I would feel myself beginning to give in to his pleading, I’d run away. He would ask me to trust him, I’d say no because I’m afraid. He wanted to help me. I told him I was independent. He knew everything about me, but he still wanted me. He accepted me regardless of all the bad I’d done. That still amazes me.

I’m too tired. I can’t run anymore. Well, all his pleading kinda got to me. I’m in love! It’s amazing that he waited until I was ready to love him back. The first time I paid attention to his touch, I felt brand spanking new. He made all my senses come alive. I finally “found” the man of my dreams, and he’s been here all along. It’s like a fairy tale and finally I get to be the Cinderella. And yes, my glass slipper fits perfectly!

My only regret is that I didn’t allow Christ into my life sooner…


Check Your Priorities



We are all a tiny part of a social circle in some form or fashion.  We spend the mandatory 8 hours with our coworkers, chill out with family, and the majority of us are online using Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, Tumbler, Instagram, etc… You get the point. At the end of the day, after spending time with the rest of the world, we just want a bubble bath and a good night’s rest so we can do it all over again tomorrow. In the midst of all this, when does God get his personal time? Is He even on our lists of priorities, or just an afterthought? Do you give Him a quick, “Thank you Lord for this day” in the morning and a rushed, “Lord you’re worthy,” in the evening?  I’m just as guilty as everybody else. I’m not perfect at all. But I feel convicted because I know I haven’t devoted myself to quiet time with Him, and I know that I should.

God should be our first, last, and everything in between. We give excuses so often to justify reasons why we don’t have the time to have a true conversation with Daddy.  One of the most overused excuses I’ve heard is, “God knows my heart.”  We’ve got to do better.

FYI Break:  When I’m writing to you, you, and you, I’m ministering to myself FIRST. These posts are my thoughts, my feelings, my heart’s story. This is my online journal, and basically, I just felt the need to share it with you.  If you feel like you’re being pointed out, reevaluate yourself. It may be the beginning of your personal revelation. 

It’s true. God does know our hearts. He knew us, and created an assignment for our lives even before our creation.  But a real relationship takes time and requires sacrifice on both parts.  Spirituality requires effort. We are a “microwave generation.” We expect everything to come quick and easy. Well, I’m a living witness, that we do NOT serve a “microwave” God.  Ten years to us is merely a blink of an eye to God. We have to make a truly conscious decision to keep our relationship healthy.

Maybe we’ll have to sacrifice a bit of sleep sometimes just to sit down and listen to Him.  Basking in His presence will put a completely different spin on every part of your day. Fasting also plays a crucial part in becoming more in tune with your Spiritual life. The most important person to Him is You. That makes YOU your greatest offering.

Need more proof?  Click here >  Matthew 6:33, Romans 12:1, Psalm 45:11 <

Discretion of the Tongue


ImageIt’s an amazing feeling to start something new, to step out in faith and do something that’s been on your mind forever. It fulfills you to actually know your purpose, then to begin moving in that purpose. Often we become so excited about our new “project” that we want to tell the world.  We want everyone to be as pumped up about it as we are.  That’s not always the case.  Everybody in your life will not be overjoyed about your new “moving forward” mentality.  Here comes the haters, the naysayers, the jealousy, and rudeness.  First of all, realize that not everything is for everybody.  When your business becomes public knowledge, then their opinion, in their minds, become a Holy Grail. Makes you wish you kept it to yourself huh?

When you step outside the limitations of your comfort zone, and you begin moving deeper, higher, closer to Christ, you cannot take everything or everyone with you. Your obedience in carrying out the will of God in your life will also require the sacrifice of the things and/or people that may have caused your separation from Him in the past.  In order to receive all the benefits of a relationship with God, we have to first learn and put into practice, the art of keeping relationship business to ourselves.  Often, what God gives you as revelation, is only for YOU at that moment and possibly for others later.

Proverbs 2:10-13 When wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul; Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee: To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things; Who leave the paths of uprightness, to walk in the ways of darkness